Ok i posted on a later thread but i dont think anyone was going to read it was so old, i also read the solutions offered there and nothing helped... SO. I have a friend i regularly play with and i went to invite him to private chat, he didn't respond, did it again (we were on dark souls) still nothing, then he sends invite, it says joining chat... for about 30 seconds, then just stops. It fails at this point doesn't say anything either just stops trying. Tried getting on gears, we can both join other games, but not each others, i can also join other friends invite to chats/parties whatever, it all works. Both of our NAT types are open, on gears though, his system tells him i have him blocked, i sent messages invites the works, deleted him re-added him, he did the same nothin! I even blocked and then resent messages over and over to see if t could remedy itself, still nothing. I have googled, youtubed and now i am trying here. If anyone has any suggestions i am open for them.